You are very fortunate if you received this kind of validation from your parents.
Think about ways you can bring what you intend to pass, not in wishful thinking, but by measurable actions. Maybe you want to relax more -- not let every horn, every bus ride, every subway trip ruffle your feathers. It acts to make that person or thing less than they, or it, are or could be; or it diminishes some part of the world’s richness, depth and promise.And, this reduction in turn feeds back, not only to justify the original "prophecy" but also to perpetuate it. A wife, a husband, a daughter, a son." You may know yourself superficially. If you're not centered and balanced, how can you assist others? In the morning, before you go out in the world, take some time to be with yourself, to contemplate your day and what you want to accomplish. "Oh," you may say, "I'm a lawyer or an account executive or an executive. I'm suggesting you take a fine-tooth comb and look at your actions, one at a time. You can't really help others if you can't help yourself. According to Thomas Schelling’s classic (1978) treatment, the term “self-fulfilling prophecy” originally referred to a process in which a negative but quite possibly baseless expectation or prediction generates a feedback loop that ends by producing exactly the expected negative result: the diminution or defeat of something originally stable and seemingly solid.