Remember we all have personality traits, which does not make us personality disordered.Notoriously famous personality disorders discussed in films, courts, and domestic disputes are all part of the dramatic-erratic cluster: The Narcissist, The Antisocial, The Individual with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or a combination of two: Antisocial Narcissistic and/or Borderline Narcissistic.Caring about someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time, and in severe cases, on the border between reality and psychosis.Your illness distorts your perceptions, causing antagonistic behavior and making the world a perilous place.Nevertheless the healthy mate wonders, “Why are we on these constant roller coaster rides?
Yet, there is a widespread psychological disorder that most people know little or nothing about. Because its symptoms are largely interpersonal, causing many to view it as a relationship issue, not a mental health one.
The film Fatal Attraction (quite an excellent performance by Glenn Close) and the recent court case of Jodi Arias come to mind.
What do all the films and print stories have in common? Dating a person with BPD is not part of your deal – or so you thought.
Perhaps you have been involved with someone who appears to be seriously interested in the relationship but who sometimes goes emotionally off the rails, lashes out at you, and becomes over-defensive.
And what if they also have an exaggerated need for attention, over-react when criticized, and seem to shut you out for no reason?
The common sense idea of these disorders is that the narcissist is self-absorbed, and controlling and the borderline is insecure, and unstable.